A new me

I tend to have lofty goals and aspirations for myself and often then not, do not achieve them.Tomorrow begins the start of another year in homeschooling adventure for our family. And I'm starting it by NOT schooling. Yes, this is the new me. Life, 6 children, a tiny cluttered house, and many other things have effected me to become a new me. This is not a bad thing. I am happy, excited, and a little apprehensive about the change but know that the change has to come. I am a teacher and therefore, 'Teach' my children at home. I constantly worry about them knowing what they are supposed to. If I do not get through my chosen pre programmed curriculum by a certain time, it brings me great angst. I have been reading a different way of educating, A Thomas Jefferson Education by Oliver DeMille. It's all the rage among Utah home schoolers. First, I thought that it was because this ideology gives you permission NOT to really teach your child. After more study, I see it as the Christ-centered way to educate children and bring families closer together. I am excited for the adventure. I desperately need more peace in my home and in my mind. So...here's to the new me!

 

7 Keys of Great Teaching
There are seven principles of successful education. When they are applied, learning occurs for any learning style or interests. When they are ignored or rejected, the quantity and quality of education decreases.

1. Classics, Not Textbooks
2. Mentors, Not Professors
3. Inspire, Not Require
4. Structure Time, Not Content
5. Simplicity, Not Complexity
6. Quality, Not Conformity
7. You, Not Them

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How to conceive a girl

True story: a friend of mine, Beth Adams, called me and asked me if I would email another friend of hers about how to get a girl. I guess since I have 4 boys and finally got a girl, they felt I was some sort of an expert. Not really, I just finally decided (after prayer and anguish) that I wanted one. AND I finally decided to listen to my mother. These are things my Mom did to have me and I did to have Emma. It was such a funny request that I thought I would share it on my blog. You never know who may find it interesting. Enjoy!

Here are some tried and true methods on how to get a girl:

1) Have sex 2-3 days before ovulation

Female sperm are bigger than male sperm, but that means they are also slower swimmers. The girls also live longer than the boys. This means that by having sex a few days before ovulating, rather than after, you might be able to give your girls a head start. Since sperm can live up to five days, the tricky part is figuring out when to have sex as far from ovulation that you possibly can, but still while the sperm are alive. The reasoning in this is that the males will not make it to the uterus, but the girls will. This is a very tricky thing to time, and by ovulating sooner than you expected or having an irregular cycle can leave you conceiving a boy despite all your hard work! Also remember that after you have sex before ovulation, make sure not to have any more unprotected sex until at least two days AFTER you ovulate.

I did not get a over the counter ovulation reader but if you do not know when you ovulate-I would buy one. I did however have intercourse those first 2 days and then not again for about another week.

 2) Stay shallow

Girl sperm love acidic environments, like the entrance to the vagina. Therefore, your partner should try to make sure that penetration is shallow and that sperm are located as close to the entrance to the vagina as possible. This will inhibit the male sperm and give the females a better chance.

The way we accomplished this was by the "missionary position"

3) No orgasm

Umm, sadly, you also might want to skip the orgasm when trying to conceive a girl. Female orgasms make the vagina more alkaline, just the thing that girl sperm hate. 

Sorry. We are good at faking it though right? :)

4) Change your diet

You can change your body’s acidity and PH through your diet, which might help you to give your girl sperm a more acidic environment. You need to make sure to eat less sodium, potassium and caffeine, while increasing your calcium and magnesium. Chicken, turkey, rice, raspberries, blueberries, green beans, cherries, cheese, corn and eggs are all good choices for mommies looking for baby girls. You can also take calcium and magnesium supplements.

They say you tend to have boys the more sugar and fats you have in your diet. I did change my diet. I got off my daily Dr. Pepper and cut out sugar for about 2 months and added a lot more fresh fruits and veggies.

5) Wive's Tales

They've been around forever for a reason. They tend to be true. The Chinese gender calendar can tell you what day to try to conceive to get the gender you desire. I've used these after I have found out I was pregnant to see what we would have and every time it was right! Douche with vinegar. Yep, gross but true. It goes back to the scientific fact that boy sperm are faster than girls while girl sperm are tougher-they last longer. Therefore, if you can kill off the boy sperm, you give the girls a fighting chance. 

Good luck! Happy Girl Hunting!

Zech's poetry page

A while ago Zech asked if he could make a blog with a poem that he had written about Minecraft. Gary set one up for him that you can see here. Today we read about the Yamato dynasty in Japan and learned about Haikus. You can read Zech and Gabe's Haikus on Zech's blog. I don't often feel like I'm getting much right but it makes me happy to see their interest in sharing their thoughts with people and their desire to conquer the computer. Here's to small successes!

Life is interesting

God has a sense of humor. He obviously knows us, our strengths, our weaknesses, and everything in between. While we still have not found a renter for our house in Maryland, I have this feeling that I just need to have faith and wait and God will swoop in at the last minute and fix everything. He seems to do that to me a lot. He knows I have little patience and little faith and waits until I am about to lose all hope, THEN steps in and saves the day. I do not mean this to be rude at all! I just find it to be interesting. He doesn't make it easy...yet He does! It would be SOOO much easier if I would just trust Him! It's laughable actually. So what happened? Ok, Gary got on unemployment when he left the military. He thought he would lose it once he became a full time student. After speaking with Job and Family Services, they said he was eligible for a whole year due to him being military. AWESOME! I had saved money to help us survive our first semester of school without getting into debt until things starting going wrong with the house in Maryland. After a heat exchange break in July and a denial to fix it by our home warranty company (what good ARE they?!?) We shelled out $3,000 of our savings to fix it. Due to our renter's negligence, I shelled out $1,700 to fix landscaping on my yard. Due to her breaking her lease we have to date spent over $3,000 covering the mortgage until we can get a renter in. ALL this time, Gary was supposed to be receiving unemployment but kept getting denied. All this money was coming out of my savings account. As of the 1st of November, we would be completely out of money and have no way to get a loan so late in the semester. I was freaking out!!! All the sudden, someone with a brain and compassion at Job and Family Services fixed everything and we got a lump sum payment today for the last 6 weeks. This money plus my savings will float us until the end of the year. I am relieved. I am overjoyed. I am comically amused by my sweet Father in Heaven. He certainly knows how to bring me to my knees. He much like me and want to hear from me more because it seems like the only time I collapse to my knees in pleas and supplication is when I am about to lose it.

The Relief Society conference was AMAZING on Saturday. I know President Monson was talking straight to me when he said,

"There will be times when you will walk a path strewn with thorns and marked by struggle. There may be times when you feel detached—even isolated—from the Giver of every good gift. You worry that you walk alone. Fear replaces faith.

When you find yourself in such circumstances, I plead with you to remember prayer. I love the words of President Ezra Taft Benson concerning prayer. Said he:

“All through my life the counsel to depend on prayer has been prized above almost any other advice I have … received. It has become an integral part of me—an anchor, a constant source of strength, and the basis of my knowledge of things divine. …

“… Though reverses come, in prayer we can find reassurance, for God will speak peace to the soul. That peace, that spirit of serenity, is life’s greatest bless^ing."

   ^{My favorite of the whole night was when he said this,}

"We were not placed on this earth to walk alone. What an amazing source of power, of strength, and of comfort is available to each of us. He who knows us better than we know ourselves, He who sees the larger picture and who knows the end from the beginning, has assured us that He will be there for us to provide help if we but ask. We have the promise: “Pray always, and be believing, and all things shall work together for your good.”

What a wonderful man and message. He is truly a man who walks and talks with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I am so happy to be able to be part of this restored gospel. I am blessed to be part of true happiness and joy. I look forward to this weekend to hear more from God's anointed servants as they speak with us at General Conference. Check it out here.

My house, my headache

When Gary and I moved to Waldorf, MD 4 years ago, we bought an adorable house in a great neighborhood for a LOT of money. When we moved a year ago, we could not sell the house for what we owed on it. We, instead, rented it out. It's a long story. Needless to say, one month after renewing the lease for another year, the renter decided to move. To say I was worried is a bit tame. Gary is in law school and we have NO paycheck! We have to get a renter in. I went to the house and found that the renter had ripped out every single bit of landscaping in my front and back yards. WHY? Why you ask? I asked the same question. She said  "They died." I'm sorry but boxwoods and shrubs don't just die! Anyway, she left and last week I made another trip back to MD to "fix" the yard.
This is what it looked like when I rented it to her:

And THIS is what i found last week:

All she left was my Japanese maple! She didn't bother to weed or mulch. Because I couldn't afford to higher someone to do this for me, I went to a nursery to buy my plants and called the missionaries. I usually do not do that. I always felt like they should not be used as our personal laborers but after last conference, Russel M. Nelson coined the phrase, "Ask the missionaries, they can help you". So I asked and they did!!! Check it out! I felt SO blessed, humbled, and appreciative!

We worked steadily for a few hours and this is the result:
 Isn't it beautiful?!?

Now if only I didn't have to fix the back yard too. Yep, she took EVERYTHING out of there too! I've decided to hire it out since it is a huge job and needs much more than just weeding and putting in plants.

We still don't have a renter. I desperately need one by Oct 1st. I am praying God will send us someone. If you feel so inclined, I'd appreciate your prayers too.

A week in review

Monday:
 Gary didn't have school plus our fabulous Aunt Nancy was in town. She helped drive my furniture back from my house in MD (loooong story!). Originally we thought we would like to take her to see the lighthouse in Menor, OH and play on the beach so we all got dressed in swimsuits in set off. When you get off the exit Menor is to your left and Kirtland is to your right. We went right and I'm so glad we did. Kirtland is SUCH a beautiful, spiritual place full of our church's history. I am so grateful we could share it with Aunt Nancy. She has been a member of the church for 1 year now and has grown so much. It's amazing!

Tuesday: 
 Aunt Nancy left to drive back to MD and we got started on our first day of homeschool for the year. We start our days with scripture reading as a family and discussion on what we read. I LOVE that Gary is home to be part of this with us. It's truly a blessing! After morning devotional, the kids asked if we could do history. They love our history program, "Story of the World". After history, I introduced Zech and Gabe to their new math levels. I decided to try Gabriel on "Teaching Textbooks" this year since I bought it for Zech but he didn't like it. I also made this decision b/c Zech needs my help with Math and I'm bringing Ammon into full schooling. I needed one kid to not need as much of my help in math. Gabriel loves it! Gabriel's math doesn't take nearly as long as Zech's so I started him on Individual Reading. After everyone was done with math, we started Grammar. Zech graduated from "First Language Lessons' and is now on Shurley's Grammar level 6. So far, so good. Gabe is using FFL 3 this year. I decided to test Ammon to see if he remembers any of the reading program we did last year. I just picked up from where we left off and I he seriously blew my socks off! Ammon hated and resisted learning to read last year. He would tell me he couldn't remember the sounds of the letters and his focus would wonder terribly.  He is totally different now! He is rocking a rolling through his reading book, "Teach Your Child to Read in 100 Easy Lessons". I used this with Zech and he is a great reader! Gabriel is good too but not as strong as Zech was at his age. (I'm going to fix that though!) This first day of school took me ALL day! I didn't finish until 2:30 or 3! This was mainly due to Emma's multiple breakdowns, fits, and distractions. She did NOT like having everyone busy and not playing with her! Elijah wanted to do school too so I would give him workbooks to work in, playdough to play with, and books and puzzles to look at. Too bad Emma wouldn't do those too! :(

Wednesday: HOMESCHOOL CO-OP DAY
Remember that post about homeschool discimination? Well...I really liked what this one group that meets at the Akron Fossil and Science Center was going to offer this year. I had contacted the liaison for the group who told me she didn't think the group would be a good fit for me. After a couple of weeks, I decided not to let one person decide for me and anyone else what was or wasn't a good fit. So, I told her that since her group did not have a Statement of Faith that had to be signed and was open to all homeschool families, I would be joining! Bright and early Wednesday morning (8AM!!!) We met for co-op. First was Science. It was great! The kids loved it! Next was music. The teacher was the typical school-marm. She was strict and demanded perfection from the kids. While the older boys said they did not like her, they learned a ton and were VERY well behaved! Ammon just got out of there as fast as he could :) We had about 1 1/2 hours before the next class, History started. Hisory was 2 hours long! Science was too!
The good: Because the science and history classes are so intense, I will not have to do these subjects at home-at all!
The bad: They are lengthy and intense! 2 hours?!? These are homeschool kids! I secretly love it though. It's all about expectations. ---that is the name of my next post.

Thursday:
Back to homeschool! We had a pretty good day except Elijah started running a fever and my stupid renter in MD makes me want to scream and hit something!

Friday:
 we had a playdate with my BFF, Beth Adams and her little girls in the AM so we started school after lunch. It was SO nice! Emma was asleep so I got a TON done! I may have to make this our new schedule! Gary was home and helped Zech with math. I could get used to that too!

Overall, I would say our week was good and successful. Here's hoping next week is even better! 

Faith in every Footstep

Most people who know me well, know of the adventure we are on. A year ago in June, I moved my house and family to the Griesmyer farm. It was a huge change at first. I lived in the middle of nowhere. The church was 45 miles away. There were no friends for me or the children close enough to visit and play with. I went through some trials of my faith but eventually settled into the wonder and luxury that the simple farm life affords. I had many interesting experiences along the way that I'll have to save for another post. In January of 2013, Gary quit active duty military life. We had another trial as we figured out how to manage the depression of separating him from his previous life as well as the depression of now being dependent on someone else. July 2013 brought us to Akron, OH where Gary has been accepted to attend law school. After more trials of faith, we found a small house to rent in our price range.  We love the area. We love the ward. We love our new friends. I LOVE that I now live about 1.5 miles from my college roomie and best friend, Beth Adams. She and I have a great history together and get along splendidly. She's awesome! I feel blessed. Yet trials of faith continue to come in and out of our lives. A major concern for us right now is of course, money. Or the lack thereof. I received notice that the renter that just signed another year lease with us in July, will be moving out in 30 days! This is a blessing in disguise even though my faith is being tested AGAIN! Will we get another renter in? Will we have to sell and lose a ton of money on the house? There are many questions that are unanswered right now. But here are a few things I have learned about faith over the last year or more:

• Faith is an Action-there has never been a time in my life that I have not been asked to DO something that tested my faith.
• You can have faith and still be worried or concerned-I used to think that if I had enough faith I would not worry about things, I would have total confidence that everything would work out. I have learned though that I can be acting on faith and still have concerns that I take to the Lord and my husband.
• Trials of Faith make us stronger and wiser- I was sitting in RS last week while we were having a lesson on faith and one woman made a comment that there was nothing in her life that has ever been 'hard' because she had faith. At first I thought that maybe she just hasn't had hard things happen to her in her life. But then I thought, trials of faith make us stronger so that things don't seem so 'hard'. Some people think my life as a military wife has been hard. I guess it has but in the moment, you just do it because your faith in God helps you through. 
• Faith is a journey- it is not something you become perfect at ...EVER! I think I will always freak a little bit when a new major trial come into my life. It doesn't matter that I've learned this lesson over and over again: God knows me and loves me and will take care of me. I know that! I really, really do! It doesn't mean that I am prefect in my faith though. It is a journey that I am still on.   

I too find my lack of faith disturbing but continue to work on it each and everyday. I think that's the whole point though, don't you?

Homeschool Discrimination

Today I received an email from a woman that heads a homeschool group in our area. I was told to contact her from another source whom I spoke to at length about who I was, my faith, my desires as a homeschool Mom, etc. I was excited about the possibility of joining an established co-op that offered classes, playgroups, field trips, and support. I wrote her a week ago and finally received a reply today. To sum it up she said she did not think their group would be a good fit for me because they were Christian based and I was LDS. This is strike 3 in this area. I have been turned down by 2 other groups who require a statement of faith that while I understand, I cannot sign. This group, however, does NOT have a statement of faith yet still decided for me that I would not fit in. I'm not mad. I'm hurt. I'm not shocked. I'm appalled! So, you say you are an inclusive group just not to people who you think aren't Christian. Where does that leave me? Protestants do not believe I'm Christian so I can't join any of their groups so that leaves me to the REALLY inclusive groups like LGBT, Wiccans, and Satanists.  Like I belong there!?! I knew homeschool would be hard, I knew it would mean I were different. I knew I would be left out, excluded from some activities of other women my age. I guess I didn't know that I would be left out, excluded by other homeschoolers! It sucks. I feel like I have been on my own my whole life and now more than ever I feel like I am in this alone. Yes, I have friends and family members who homeschool but none live close enough to do anything with. Times like these make you question, ya know? It makes it that much more important for me to know my Why! I know I am doing this because it is BEST for my family. Period. The End!

Today's Gem:

My oldest asked me again today, "Mom, when are we going to start homeschool again?" 

Awesome! I love when they do this! It means it is time! 

Children crave structure and routine. They need to know what to expect each day. Giving them clear expectations and goals to achieve and work towards betters their attitudes, increases their confidence, and makes them more independent people. 

How to set up a homeschool daily routine:

-Be Realistic

Dictating what will be done every hour and minute of the day will only frustrate you when it doesn't happen. Life happens! Sometimes we sleep in. Sometimes we get a phone call that just can't wait. When setting up your schedule, make sure you give yourself room to breathe, juggle, and change if needed. 

-Don't forget the chores

Many people think it is impossible to do both. Sometimes it is! Chores, like laundry, often times get put on hold when first starting out on the homeschool adventure. Don't worry! There is always more laundry that needs to be done. I would often laugh at my Mom when she would come to visit. She would want to help with laundry. I'm pretty good at keeping up with it so it was never a huge need for me, it may be for you. I would laugh because once my mom finished the laundry, she was so happy! But in my mind I would think, there's more getting dirty as we speak! That's pretty rude of me huh?! I'd much rather someone cook me dinner! Lol! 

Kids need chores too!

If your kids aren't doing chores, you are not teaching them the most important thing in life, work. You MUST teach them how to work. Plus, there's no way you can do all this yourself! 

Here is my Schedule to help you get an idea of how I work:

Wake up

Eat breakfast

Get dressed

Start a load of laundry

Direct kid's morning chores (kitchen duty)

Morning devotional ( we all join together for a mini FHE)

History/guided reading (this is one of the only subjects we do together as a whole family. So, I do it first before the little ones get too rambunctious.)

Grammar 

Piano

Handwriting

( I have one child doing Grammar with me while another is working independently on HW while the other is practicing piano. Got that?) 

LUNCH

Afternoon chores- switch over laundry, clean kitchen

Individual reading time while I Put babies down for nap

Math

Computer time- this is educational computer time that includes typing, research, and reports

(I call one child to me to do math lessons while the little ones are playing quietly and the big kids are having computer time and rotate them through math like that) 

Free play

Clean up

DINNER

Evening chores- this consists of kitchen duties, tidying up the school room, putting away folded laundry, etc.

Bedtime routine

Lights out!

Mommy time-blog, FB, pay bills, eat cookies, and watch a movie ;)

Notice there are not hours associated with this schedule. Yeah...I made that mistake my first year. It was awful! I never could start school at 8am and have everything done before lunch at 11:30am. Most themes, I would be exhausted by lunch and not start school again until after 3! No more set times for me. I know what order things need to be done in and that is more attainable for me. 

What about shopping and Dr apts?

My kids used to  take piano on Tuesdays at 10am. After their lessons, I would do my shopping. I would TRY to schedule Dr apts on this day as well. It didn't always work but trying to plan is better than not planning at all. I love that saying, "failing to plan is planning to fail!" It is sooo true! You need a plan. Even if it doesn't always work. Have one! 

~Bekah

Homeschooling: Where do I start?

Where Do I Start?

So, you have your "Why" and are gonna homeschool. Now what?!? There is SOOO much information out there that one can get tremendously overwhelmed. I STILL get overwhelmed and I've been doing it for 3 years now! Here's my thoughts for whatever they are worth:

1) Find out what kind of homeschooler you want to be. 

• Are you looking for an unschooling method? Some people love just living life and embracing any and all experiences as "learning opportunities". As a public school kid, I find I do not do this easily. I learned to test and retained nothing :(

• Would you like to teach/learn through unit studies? I love unit studies but find I need more structure than this

• Do you want a laid out curriculum that comes all boxed up with a pretty bow? (Me, Me, Me!)

• Would you like someone else to teach and direct your child but still keep them home? There are many free online homeschools that will do just that. K12, Connections Academy, and several others. Ohio has one called OHDELA they will even give you a printer and a monthly stipend to help you pay for extra curriculars. 

2) Read the homeschooling laws for your state. 
Go to http://www.hslda.org/ 
Becoming a member of Homeschool Legal Defense would also be a step that I would take if you are looking at doing this for an extended period of time. They've got your back. Always! 


3) Purchase your curriculum
There are sooo many sources to choose from! Homeschooling used to be so obscure and difficult. Now you can practically do it completely free and online. I have numerous websites pinned on my Pinterest boards, if you are interested. But for your information and since this is solely my blog and my opinion, here are my favs!

• Bekah's favorite multi-subject Curriculum in a box:                                                         

Sonlight http://www.sonlight.com . If I had the money, I would buy Sonlight. I love their readers and use their list in my own homeschool adventure. 

~You could choose instead the tried and true- Abeka  Warning: It's pricey too! 

• MATH:    

Saxon- This is what I use mainly because of peer pressure. Seriously, my hubby was taught using Saxon and swore by it and then my SIL said it was the "best" so I went with Saxon. It is a a GREAT curriculum. Pros: It is heavy on manipulatives which works for me and some of my kinesthetic learners. It is thorough. You know the student is learning the concept before another is taught. Cons: It is tedious. It is repetitive. I have to edit a lot to save my sanity and the sanity of my kids. Because I am not using the whole program the way it is written, I feel guilty, push my kids too hard, and then math becomes dreadful for us all. (sigh)                                                                                                                                      
Math U See- I ALMOST bought this whole program this year. I have a ton of friends who use it and they all love it! I was nervous to start something new and totally different at this stage plus my practical side wouldn't let me buy new stuff when I have another one that works great and is paid for! Pros: Heavy with manipulatives. Cons: each workbook is one concept heavy. Ex: Their Beta book is primarily addition and subtraction. If you were to put your child into public school after only one year, I am not sure if they would have the well rounded knowledge of their grade level math concepts.                                                                                               
 Right Start Math- I attended a LDS homeschool conference in May where the creator of Right Start Math was there and gave a presentation on the program. I was VERY impressed and enthralled! It seemed like a wonderful mesh of Saxon and Math U See. Probably would have been perfect for me IF I had let myself spend the $. Pros: Good solid math program. Heavy on mainpulatives but more cyclical than Math U See. Cons: only goes up to 5th grade. Price.
 

•  HISTORY: 

Story of the World www.peacehillpress.com. This is a classical education based program with a 4 year cycle of History volumes. It comes with an Activity Book which is full of student coloring pages, recipes, crafts, and other readings to go along with the chapters and subjects you study in the history book itself. It also has a test book to keep tabs on retention. My kids beg for history! It is their favorite subject!                                                                          
ABEKA- This is probably the longest standing homeschool curriculum out there. Its pricey though!                                                                                                                                                   My Father's World-Christian based. Cute graphics. Fun. Pricey. 

• WRITING:

Let's face it, all kids at the elementary age REALLY need to focus on is Reading, Writing, and Arithmetic.  My favorite handwriting learning curriculum is...
Handwriting Without Tears www.hwtears.com. It is SUPER fun, easy, and the kids like it instead of dreading it like I did in school. You don't even need to buy anything. There are TONS of websites where you can print off handwriting sheets for free. Google is my best friend! 

• READING/GRAMMAR:

First of all, READ TO YOUR KIDS!!! Read to them! There are sooo many studies that prove that IQs are higher in children whose parents read to them at young ages. (I start reading to mine while they are in utero!) 
We have Guided Reading, Individual Reading, and Free Reading at our house.
Guided Reading is where I read to my kids a book of my choice (usually a classic). We spend 20-30 mins depending on behaviors with the little ones. Sometimes it will be up to an hour if its at the climax and the kids just don't want me to stop!
Individual Reading is where the kids have to read at least 30 mins of a book on their reading list. (Remember the Sonlight list?)
Free Reading- this is where they can pick anything they want to read and read it. Yes, even Calvin and Hobbes, Pokemon, or Diary of a Wimpy Kid ~cringe! The point is to let them read things that are fun to them. I usually do this during quiet/nap time to help us all stay quiet!

Grammar: I LOVE Grammar!
I use First Language Lessons from www.peacehillpress.com
I also like Abeka and Shurley English. Because First Language Lessons only has 4 levels available, Zechariah has finished them all. This year he will graduate to Shurley Grammar for his middle school grammar studies.

• SPELLING: 

First of all, I believe the more you read and write, the more proper spelling will come naturally to you (at least it did to me). However, I am realizing that not everyone can just see a word and know how it is supposed to be spelled. Shocker! I have used a workbook called Spelling Workout. It's like $8 on amazon or something. This year I am starting a new Spelling program that many of my homeschooler friends RAVE about: All About Spelling. I will let you know how it goes!

• SCIENCE:

Oh science, I hate you and you hate me! I am terrible at teaching science! Why, you ask? Because I was taught out of a textbook but am a kinesthetic learning. Therefore, I have NO applicable knowledge in this field. AT ALL! My kids ask me questions and I have no answer for them. I feel stupid. I am also a bit OCD and cannot stand the mess of a science project happening in my house. :( I do have loads of science readers I make them read and I put my kids on National Geographic, NASA, and other science related websites. But that is the extent of my endeavor...until now. Realizing my disdain for science, I enrolled my kiddos in a science class taught at a Fossil and Science Center here in town. I'm ecstatic and so are they! YAY!
There are science curricula out there! My fav is Apologia. It is a Creation based approach to science instead of evolutionary, which I appreciate. We finished the Solar System book and had a blast doing it. They have many subjects to choose from and the price is fairly good.

Did I forget anything? Gosh, I hope not! Please comment, FB me, or email me with any further questions you might have. I really hope this helps at least a little.

You can do it! I know you can! Good luck on your new adventure! It is super crazy but crazy rewarding!

I'm BAAAAACK!

HI! Did you miss me? I can't believe it has been so long since I last posted on my blog! I will not even try to catch up. I just want to start anew and fresh. I am new, I am different, my life is SO not the same. So here we go!

This particular blog post is specifically to answer my many friends who are asking the questions: "How do you do it?" and "Is home-school really hard?"

How do you do it?

If by "it" you mean raise and home school 5 children while pregnant with my 6th; one day at a time. You see, the first 7-9 years of my marriage and child bearing years were full of high expectations of myself.  I kept my house immaculately clean. There was NEVER dirty laundry laying around. You would see no dirty dishes in the sink. I vacuumed every single day. (seriously, I did) I had a strict schedule for my kids. I read every parenting book I could get my hands on. I did story times and playgroups. I home schooled, then I didn't. I served in huge callings both while my husband was deployed and state side. I fulfilled my role as the supportive military wife. This meant I did everything by myself; finances, bedtimes, lawn care, home care and maintenance, car maintenance, child rearing, even hosting and caring for our numerous family members and special occasions.  ~I love to throw a party! I took many judgements and advice from others, I gave a bit of my own-sorry :( I drew close to the Lord and sometimes I ran away from Him. I have loved my husband and at times, despised my husband. I have learned. I have grown, I have changed. One day at a time. You see, I restart every day with a fresh pallet. I always tell my kids that once their punishment is over and they have apologized, its done. Its over. I do not continue the punishment or guilt trip. Its over! So I try to do this with myself, and my mate, as well. I have to. I disappoint myself everyday. I am not who I want to be. I do not act the way I know I should all the time. But I'm trying.
Now, I have learned a lot of 'tricks of the trade' along the way that I will be sharing with all of you as soon as I figure out how to make a most amazing blog! But, I "do it" one day at a time. This also means one baby at a time. They get older you guys! They grow and learn as well! Its scary and crazy cool all at the same time.

Is homeschool really hard?

Oh boy! How do I answer this? No. and Yes. Is it harder than putting your kid on a bus at 7am and not seeing them again until 3pm or later? SURE! I've done both! I can guarantee that it is harder. It takes more of your time. It takes planning, scheduling, juggling. But it is also easier in some respects. I HATED that the kids would come home from school and we'd rush off to piano, then come home for homework and dinner, then rush off to soccer practice, then get home just in time to do our bedtime routine. It was chaotic! It felt like we were constantly rushed. It felt hectic. I hated it!!! Homeschooling allows us to take our time. It allows us time for scripture study. We sit at the table longer and talk about silly things. We are forced to communicate and work together. The children have stronger relationships with one another because of being home together all the time.

The choice to home-school is a personal one.
You need to choose first for yourself, with the help of our Lord through prayer, if this is right for you. I am not going to spew all this anti public school garbage that you can get from many people. It doesn't help convince anybody to do or not to! I can share my "Why" and let you discover yours. My "Why" comes from a quote I read in Pres. Uchtdorf's talk "Of Things That Matter Most" (http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2010/10/of-things-that-matter-most?lang=eng). I had prayed for many months about whether or not I should pull my kids out of public school and homeschool them. Zech had been picked up for TAG and Gabriel was doing great at the school too. I even attended a LDS homeschool convention in hopes of receiving that AH HA! moment. One day I was soaking in the tub, reading the Ensign and this hit me like a ton of bricks,

"Elder Dallin H. Oaks, in a recent general conference, taught, “We have to forego some good things in order to choose others that are better or best because they develop faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and strengthen our families.” 

There you go.  That was it.  That was my answer.  Public school was good!  But home-schooling my children was better or best because it would allow us to develop our faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and strengthen my family.  I knew it.  Without a doubt, I knew it.  So I did it!  Ok, so once you've made the choice...where do you start?! That, my friends will be tomorrows post :)

Gabriel turns 7

Gabriel celebrated his 7th birthday by watching "The Amazing Spiderman" and having cake and ice cream with all his cousins at the farm for Cousin's Camp. I hope he realizes how lucky he is to have his birthday at a time when the entire family is always together.

Here's a little about 7 year old Gabriel: (interview done today actually)

Favorite movie: NinjaGo and Lego Clutch Powers, the movie

Favorite color: fire red

Favorite book: Magic School Bus books

Favorite song: Tantrum from Dog Train CD

Favorite thing to do: Play Legos with Zech

Favorite Person: Emma Lee (and Mommy and Daddy and everybody else in my family)

Least favorite thing to do: school

Favorite thing that happened last year: going to Disney World

Favorite thing learned in school: Learning about the Romans and Galdiators

Biggest accomplishments: I scored my first goal in my last game of the soccer season. Someone kicked the ball to me and I kicked it into the goal. I was so excited and happy!

Mommy's thoughts: Gabriel is so mature for his age. He is still the sweet sensitive boy he has always been. He is learning to stand up to Zechariah when Zech is wrong. I am happy to see that. I let him know that it is ok and support him as much as I can. Gabriel is a big brother and finds that the role brings a lot of responsibilty. He is more than happy to take that on when it comes to Emma Lee, he is not so willing with Ammon and Elijah. Gabe and Zech have been friends for so long that they tend to not let the younger boys play and hang out with them. Gabe is getting better about playing with and including Ammon in their circle. Gabriel is thoughtful and picks up on people's thoughts and feelings. He asks questions and listens well. Gabriel is smart. He is a fabulous reader and is doing well in Math. His talents continue to develop. He is beginning to reallize his likes and dislikes and understand that it is OK if he likes something that someone else doesn't or vice versa. I love my Gabriel. He is and always will be "My Angel".

Our Move to Ohio: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

The Good: 

•  I have great friends who love me and support me.  I had some awesome people come in and help me pack, clean, and watch my kiddos so that I could get out of my house in Waldorf. Thank you guys! I couldn't have done it without you!
• The Griesmyer farm is BEAUTIFUL! It is quiet, serene, slow paced, and completely different from the hustle and bustle of the DC area.
• The boys have plenty of room to run and play.
• The weather is nice and warm
• We take trips to the creek and go on walks just to explore.
• Cousin's camp brings all the family together and is a load of fun (and noise, and confusion)

 The Bad:
 
 

• Moving a fully furnished house into a fully furnished house is really hard and..well, impossible. My stuff is stored in 3 different places on the farm and is driving me nuts. I slowly unpack boxes and am constantly searching for things. Actually, I've given up. I'll find it when I find it.
• I broke my truck door. It was SO stupid too. I decided to take the kids to the city pool one day. I sent Zech inside the house to get something and decided to back up the driveway to get him-with the door open. It caught the side of the hill and BAM!!! Broken door! I didn't think anything about it since I supposedly have the best car insurance ever-USAA. I call them to come get my car and fix it when they tell me they have no record of my policy. WHAT THE #$@!!!  2 weeks prior I had changed my policy over from MD coverage to Ohio. Well come to find out, they cancelled my MD and did not initiate my OH! I was out of a car for 2 weeks! Not a fun and easy thing for a family my size.
• A HUGE storm hits the farm as well as my house in Waldorf.  We lose power for 3 days. We have 15 children and 7 adults in the house. Tensions and tempers rise! Our camp's theme was "Survivor" this year! We seriously learned a lot!
• My neighbor's tree comes crashing down on my house in Waldorf causing $8,000+ in damage. Because we rented out our house, 2 weeks before the storm, I had JUST changed my insurance to fire and upped the premium to $2,500!!!
• Gary is still working in VA. I have no friends here. I am in the middle of nowhere. I have no leads for my Premier Jewelry business and I fall into a deep depression.

 

The Ugly:

• Ammon contracted impetigo from the baby pool at the community pool. It was nasty and gross and to make matters worse, we had no power or running water to keep him clean. Thank goodness for antibiotics and antibacterial lotion! Poor baby! :(

 

 



The power of calm

This past week I had the privilege of attending an LDS home school conference in Fredericksburg, VA. It wasn't too far from my home and since my DH has to practically travel all the way down there to work everyday, I just drove with him. My wonderful mother flew out to take care of my kiddos so I could go. And even though she doesn't read my blog: "Thanks Mom! We love you and miss you already!" 

About the conference:

Wednesday- I took a special seminar from Susan Wise Bauer, author of "The Well Trained Mind". It was cool. She was good. I learned a lot. I learned that my expectations for the children are often based on the public school model which, let's face it, is not a great model AT ALL! SO I decided to chill a little. That was good. (I'll blog the highlights of this seminar a little later Lia!) My DH came with me but basically just talked to his brother the whole time because they haven't seen each other in a while.

Thursday-Nicholeen Peck, an LDS woman who has a background working with troubled kids, has developed a parenting program titled "Teaching Self Government". She was a special guest speaker and gave multiple classes on different subjects. I had heard about her last year from this conference but never checked her out until a few months ago. That's where I watched her videos from the BBC show, World's Strictest Parents. I was really impressed by the way she dealt with those kids. I then saw she was going to be at our conference and was stoked! Check out her website here

I am sure you will be surprised to know that I even had an acting debut! I did! Nicholeen asked for a volunteer, I raised my hand along with a few others in the room. She then said to wait because the volunteer had to be able to act and stay in character. My hand shot up again-this time I was alone. (I was also really excited to try!) She wanted to show 3 different things we as parents might face with our kids, how to be calm, and how being calm helps every situation. She had me first rage at her, then be passive aggressive, and finally be the whiner/crier. It was awesome! I felt more alive than I have in a LONG time! Do you realize how much I love to act, direct, sing, perform? I love it! 
I LOVE it!!! I often wonder what I am supposed to do with my talent? (sorry, I digress)

I learned SO much from Nicholeen. I bought her book and came home with a few simple techniques to use and try on my little family. Yeah... Do you know how hard it is to stay calm, never raise your voice, and always have teaching moments instead of critical or correcting ones? YIKES!!! I got home late Friday night so my first real test was Saturday. I had told Gary a little bit about the program on our drive home Friday so he was on board. It took every ounce of energy I had to maintain a calm mind, body, face, and voice. I mean, it was so much work!!! Don't believe me, just try for one day. I'm still working on it. I'll keep you posted...

I believe in her ideology. We are trying to teach our children (and ourselves) how to govern ourselves. How to be in control of our thoughts, feelings, and actions. True self government is obedience to God's laws and commandments. Obedience to God is true happiness and power. When we are disobedient, we have no power or control. We must teach our children how to control themselves. This is tough to do in a world that teaches it is ok to do anything and everything that feels good! I know that I have been entrusted by with raising an Army of God and I could use all the help I can get.

Emma Lee Rose

A few pics of Emma in all her cuteness:

Checking out the trampoline for the 1st time (9mos) Emma desperately wants to play outside with her brothers but I don't want her crawling through mud. The day was nice so I let her check out the trampoline. She was fascinated!

 Passed out after church (9mos) Since church is at 1pm-it really gets in the way of nap time. Gary usually puts her to sleep but the noises tend to keep her up or wake her up prematurely. She always conks out on our way home from church.

 Frenchfries are yummy! (8mos) Emma loves to eat but refuses baby food. She wants to eat what we eat!

 Pretty in pink! (8mos) It is so fun to dress Emma. And it is so fun to see the boys cue at her, "Oh Emma, you look beautiful!" LOVE!

She loves to smile and is so quiet! (8mos)

 She adores her brothers. When she sees them or they talk to her, she kicks her legs and twists her wrists in excitement! (at Great Wolfe Lodge @ 7mos)

Being serenaded by her "favorite" Uncle, Ken! (7 mos)

Easter (finally)

Just some pics from Easter. Gary was out of town which ruined some of my plans for family pictures. My mom had sent me money to buy Emma this adorable dress and I even found matching ties for the boys! I bought myself a coordinating dress and Gary a tie to match! The pics aren't that great because I don't have a real camera-still using the phone. Oh well! Easter was fun and my little princess looked gorgeous!

Soccer Season

Soccer is in full swing. I am honestly read for it to be over. I have 3 in 3 different teams this year.

Ammon's PeeWee team is a joke. They have not had one real practice where the coaches taught them the rules of the game. Ammon just runs up and down the field after his teammates grabbing their shirts until I shout at him "Hands Off!". He is hilarious and he has a blast!

Gabriel has improved so much! He is running faster and has ball control. Being a leftie is really tough in a right dominated world though. He practically runs around the ball in order to kick it in the correct position. Poor guy! He has fun though and his team is winning-which he likes. Next year he wants to try baseball.

Zechariah. Holy Cow! The kid is good! He is fast, he is strong, he is fearless. Zech has gotten better at ball control and can keep it from getting taken away from him and can steal it away from other kids. He is still working on his shooting. He needs power behind his kicks. Other kids his age are lobbing the ball into the air and over the goalie's head. Zech isn't there yet. He hates going to practice but loves to play the games!

More pics to come...

Pee Pee Boys

My 4 and 2 year olds are crazy. C-R-A-Z-Y!  A few months ago after bath time with the 2 crazies, I went into the boys' room (all 4 share a room) to get Elijah dressed. Ammon was butt naked peeing on the floor! "WHAT ARE YOU DOING???", I yelled/gasped! He doesn't pee on the floor! He's 4-working on 5! He just looked up at me with his oh so gorgeous blue eyes and shrugged his shoulders. The expression was angelic. I asked him if he had an accident. He said yes! I made him get the cleaner out and a wash cloth and clean it up (then I cleaned it some more!) And then...every time I went into the room I smelled pee. I called my sweet friend who has a carpet cleaner to come over and attack that spot. She did. I STILL smelled pee! And then....I found out why.

Background: Elijah has decided he wants to be a big boy and wear underwear. He doesn't always make it to the bathroom though and with me packing, painting, and dealing with a fussy teething 10 month old, I am quite distracted and unmotivated to potty train. One day 2 weeks ago, I heard Eli and Ammon running into my room and giggling (also a bad sign) So, I walked into my bathroom to find my 2 year old peeing in the vent! PEEING IN THE VENT! Dawn, recognition, light bulbs, sirens, and a musical soundtrack exploded in my mind as I realized just why I could still smell pee in the boys' room and why Elijah thought it was cool and hilarious to pee in the vent! Ammon had peed down the vent in his bedroom! WHAT THE HECK??? Oh the joy of motherhood. I used to judge. I used to hear these crazy stories from my girlfriends and SIL's and I would wonder to myself, "Where were you?" "How did they get that permanent marker?" etc, etc. I formally apologize for my judgements. Karma is biting my butt with these 2, HARD! If they weren't so dang cute I'd pinch their heads off! :)

Pretty darn cool!

Last Sunday afforded my family and ward an unique opportunity:
Church Public Affairs came and filmed our meetings. The 1st hour, we had a regular sacrament meeting. There was no filming so as not to disrupt the Spirit. I am the choir director in my ward and we were scheduled to sing "Sweet Hour of Prayer". After receiving an email on Thursday informing us about the film crew coming, I asked a violinist from our ward to accompany us along with our pianist. I wanted to kick it up a notch. I am SO glad I did! The P.A. director asked us to do it again so they could film it! They then filmed portions of the sacrament meeting. I felt bad for a particular youth speaker who was asked to give his talk again. He was pretty nervous! I thought everything about the experience was cool. I've always wanted to be in a movie or on film. I just never thought it would be like this! Everyone was given a notice from the public affairs that talked about "Why" they were doing this.
Here's what I gathered:
Many news organizations have/are/do contact the church asking permission to film or take pictures of our "typical" Sunday meetings. Instead of disrupting many services to grant these, the church decided to film 2 wards in our stake for this purpose. The footage can be used in part or in its entirety. It may be released as print, ads, commercials, Mormon messages, etc.
  So look for me in upcoming releases from the church that show a sacrament meeting. You'll most likely only see my back as I conduct the choir-badly I'm sure! Anyhow, it was an amazing, fun, once in a lifetime experience and I am glad it happened to us!
It was also a bit frustrating keeping my little ones quiet and gorgeous and well behaved for 2.5 hours! YIKES! For the most part, they did really well. Until one of them knocked over a water bottle and it poured all over me and the pew. Oh well, I was wearing black and you really couldn't tell. Emma got VERY tired by the end though, was ready for bed, and got a little cranky. All in all, we all survived and I think it is a very cool thing the church is doing! AND I think it is sooo smart considering the political scene that is approaching. 
It was Pretty Darn Cool!